Now “blame” is a funny thing isn’t it.  Easy to do also; to blame someone else for our troubles.  I know I certainly have been guilty of it.

Sometimes we blame our parents.

The reason behind this I think is that they are the first human beings we come in contact with as a small child.

They are so big and we are so small.  What they say is “The Law” and if we are dutiful children we follow that “law”.  I know I certainly did.

Sometimes when we become adults we still follow that “law “instead of thinking for ourselves.  We become cross because a parent or perhaps both parents are still telling us what to do.    I have a friend who is now 68 and still having this problem.

Parents, as a rule, are only trying to help in the best way they know how.

Sometimes we need to step back and look at our parents, not as parents, but as human beings, with frailties just like us, not someone who is on a pedestal to be worshipped like some kind of God.   People who make mistakes, just like we do.  People who are treating us as they were treated because it is the only way they know.

Sometimes parents, who haven’t had many chances in life, want to see their children excel and get upset when the child doesn’t, as this means that they also have missed out once again on having a chance, through the eyes of their children.

Perhaps if you have a parent or some well meaning friends who seem to be controlling your life, it may be time to step back, look at these people as people just like you and me who are doing the best they can with their life. 

Love them just where they are on their journey.  Acknowledge them for what they have done for you but if necessary decide to make your own choices in life as an adult.

Never judge them for caring and loving you, but at the same time love and respect yourself and fulfill your destiny.