Have any of you felt you were rejected by someone.  Well you aren’t alone believe me.  I guess we all at some time or another have felt like that.

In my own life I have looked at people who have hurt me or rejected me and came to understand why this was so.

On an intellectual level I had no problem forgiving them for any unkindness they showed but unfortunately my “heart” didn’t understand.

I decided to look at why they rejected me.  This was what I came up with.  There are many more, but this is a start.

I didn’t look the way they wanted me to look,

I didn’t talk the way they wanted me to talk

I wasn’t as good a mother as they wanted me to be

I just wasn’t suitable for their group

I then realized that it was their perception of what they thought I should be that was the problem.  Not the way I was.  I wasn’t coming up to the standard they had set for me.  Bit like judgment and discrimination isn’t it.  Not liking someone just because they are different.

I then wondered what I could do about that.  What would I have liked them to have done.  How would I have liked them to have treated me.

Given me uplifting statements e.g.  You look nice today.

Not criticize me about how I talked or acted.

Perhaps brought me little gifts to make my day a bit brighter.

Take me to the movies or to dinner.

Umm.  So what do we do now.

Well for a start, and this is what I did.  Start to treat yourself as you would have liked other people to have treated you.

Only say uplifting things about yourself.  Don’t look in the mirror first thing in the morning and say “Gosh you would be good for haunting houses this morning.”

Try – and this is a hard one – looking yourself in the mirror, right in the eyes and say “I love you, you are a beautiful person”.

You know the first time I did that, I cried and cried.  I mean I hadn’t heard that for a long time and most certainly not from myself.

So what I am trying to say is that there is nothing wrong with any of us.  We are all perfect just as we are.  Remember the movie "Bridget Jones’ Diary” when he says “I like you just as you are”.

Learn to love yourself “just as you are”.  Do little things for yourself that you would normally only do for others.  Give yourself little treats.  Even if it is only taking time off during the day to read or have a soaking bath in nice oils.  Pamper yourself.  You deserve it.

When you learn to love yourself “Just as you are”, you are going to find it much easier to love other people. 

Have you heard the saying “What other people think of you is none of your business”.

TRUE – Do this little exercise and just start to learn to love yourself. You owe it to yourself.